Jewish Living

Jewish religious life balances set times and forms (keva) and prayer from the heart (kavanah). At B’nai Shalom, we treasure both.

Weekday, Shabbat, High Holy Day, and holiday services are our steady, indispensable framework. They give us time to be present together as our voices lift in sudden harmony, as we bring personal thoughts to the Amidah, as we feel awe before the open ark, as a sermon offers unexpected insight.

B’nai Shalom’s culture of prayer is traditional yet informal, with congregants leading many portions of the service. Men and women, as well as post-B’nei Mitzvah students, are honored with aliyot, lead davening, and chant Torah and Haftarah. Rabbi Tobin’s teaching from the bimah is interactive, and always thought-provoking, based on deep academic and Judaic knowledge.

The vibrant, complete cycle of services at B’nai Shalom testifies to our commitment to one another, and to the traditions we share.

Whatever your background or prior experience, we invite you to become part of our kehillah kedoshah, our sacred community.

Yizkor Services

The Jewish calendar helps us pause four times a year to remember the loved ones we’ve lost. We say Yizkor on Yom Kippur. And we do so on three holidays: Shemini Atzeret, the eighth day of Pesach, and the second day of Shavuot.

These moving services, enhanced by Rabbi Tobin’s deep and reflective sermons, are a poignant highlight of the B’nai Shalom experience.

You are welcome to join with us in memory and prayer.


Life Cycle


At B’nai Shalom, we cherish the opportunity to welcome newborns into our community, and invite you to celebrate their naming in our Sanctuary.

Baby Naming

Jewish families follow different customs in selecting Hebrew names.

  • Families of Central or Eastern European (Ashkenazi) heritage typically name a child after a deceased relative whom they held in high esteem.
  • Families of Spanish or Middle-Eastern (Sephardic) heritage often name a child after a grandparent, either living or deceased.

Bat and Bar Mitzvah

This important and happy milestone celebrates your child’s commitment and achievement:

  • Preparation with Rabbi Tobin and Rena Casser
  • The ability to chant a Torah portion and Haftarah, as well as to lead some portion of the service
  • A d’var Torah (brief teaching), demonstrating serious consideration of the Torah portion and related Jewish values


As a bride and groom pledge “Ani l’dodi, v’dodi li” (I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine), their declaration to family and community marks the start of a new life of love and commitment.

B’nai Shalom will greet news of your simcha with joy, and will celebrate with spirit whatever part of your festivities you choose to share with our community.

Death and Mourning

Loss of a loved one is very hard, and the B’nai Shalom community extends every effort to ensure that you will be supported and not alone. Often, Rabbi Tobin will be aware of your loved one’s illness for some time, and will have been deeply involved in pastoral care.

Please call the synagogue office when a death occurs to speak with Rabbi Tobin about your family’s needs, funeral plans and the schedule for shiva. Typically, we share the shiva schedule with the congregation, so that a minyan gathered in your home can offer the comfort of a caring community.

Rabbi Tobin’s guidance for families in mourning, and his participation in funerals and the unveilings that are scheduled a year later, is one of the most sacred and important of his rabbinic and pastoral commitments.

Yahrzeit Converter

The anniversary of the death of a close loved one is commemorated by lighting a yahrzeit candle and coming to synagogue to recite Kaddish. B’nai Shalom will send you a notice of the date of the yahrzeits you observe.

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